People We Like From The First Moment, Magical People

Some people are just like that. People we like from the “first moment”. We do not really know what’s wrong with them. But in this grayscale world, their presence is like a splash of color that attracts us, makes us happy and brings us closer to life.

Science says it can be their smile, attitude or welcoming atmosphere, but many of their natural virtues seem magical – inexplicable.

You may not recognize the name Dale Carnegie. But this businessman and prolific writer from the 1930s practically began the self-help movement that now fills our bookstores.

One of his most famous and best-selling books was ” How to Win Friends – How to Influence and Progress”.

In the book , he described for the first time one of the greatest desires (whether we like it or not) for people, specifically: “to be similar”.

Since the 1930s, interest in the psychological field has only grown. In fact, even now in the age of coaching, the good professionals in this field know how to train their clients in these basic, important tools they will use to create a positive impact in their social environments.

But the strangest thing is that there are people who come straight out of the “factory” with this skill. This skill in having an almost immediate connection with the one in front of them. They evoke positive emotions, confidence and security.

This sometimes magical and spontaneous spark is as valuable as a diamond. Any good leader, for example, will want to attract more people.

It is also a tool that anyone with poor social skills wants to develop in order to enjoy some of their best relationships. To have a better daily life where they can make more friends, find a relationship, and feel, in principle, more confident in themselves.

People who are sympathetic without trying: Authentic people we like from the “first moment”

What we do know is that wanting to be liked by everyone around us is an endless source of suffering. It does not make sense, it is not useful or healthy.

But then there are the types who, without looking for it or forcing it, manage to have a connection with almost 80% of the people they meet every day.

Many people would not hesitate to say that the explanation is physical attractiveness. Now, however, there is something that people who choose salespeople or fundraisers for a non-governmental organization definitely know.

It is that there is something more. Something that is present in non-verbal language or even in what many people now call “the art of gentleness”.

It is the virtue of having an open and welcoming attitude that helps us reach people around us in a friendly, trusting and effective way.

Now we want to look at what other dimensions are shared by everyone who is sympathetic without trying.

The Duchenne smile, the most sincere of all

We are completely capable of forging a smile. We are able to give other people the most spectacular and captivating of smiles. But still we can also hide serious  insincerity behind it.

• It is said that the Duchenne smile is naturally captivating. It inspires self-confidence and is like a natural contact in any social environment.
• The way it is created in our face is a result of tightening of the large and less zygomatic bone, near the mouth. It is also the tightening that lifts the cheeks and produces small wrinkles around the eyes…

Humility, the most attractive quality of people we like from the “first moment”

Some people have qualities that provide immediate excitement. It is, of course, the stress that comes with people showing up and talking about their lives from nowhere.

They criticize people who are not around, they are tactless, they say too many jokes, or they abuse the personal pronoun, “I”. We have all experienced it at least once.

But in the opposite end, there are people who, without trying at all, are sympathetic. People whose humility we are immediately attracted to.

There are a few dimensions to this, brushstrokes that can create a magical, exceptional work of art.

• We said it before: some likeable people tend to practice the art of gentleness. With their always open attitude, they are able to establish a familiarity with us right away. We feel that we can open up to them comfortably and naturally.
• Their attitude and non-verbal language are completely free of any trace of power. They do not force themselves, they are never stiff. It’s just openness and intimacy.

• What sympathetic people also have in common is that they do not complain, demand or criticize. Their attitude is always wonderfully humble…

To sum up, there are many people with this light written in their DNA. But there is still one important thing to remember about all of this: these qualities can be learned.

While it is true that we do not have to be liked by everyone or from the ‘first moment’, it is good for us to be able to have a better connection with certain people.

So working every day with these qualities will definitely help us. It will help us touch people’s hearts.