Missing Someone Does Not Mean You Want Them Back

You may miss someone, you may long for everything you have been through with a person you loved. You may want memories to be repeated, you may ask yourself: why did it end?

Could this have been something? What would have happened if…? But this nostalgia does not have to mean that you want the person causing this feeling to come back.

Missing someone can be complicated. Sometimes it is accompanied by a certain pain. You remember by longing for much of what you find on your mental journey into the past.

But there was a reason it  ended. Keeping your distance helps you resist the temptation to come back, because deep down you will not go back.

We may miss the person or story we had with them. In fact, this changes the meaning of our memories a lot. Sometimes it’s not what we want the other person to come back to do, but rather to enjoy the good times again.

But think about it: this does not have to happen to the same person. The story and feelings can be repeated in part with another person now.

There are people who appear in our lives for a limited time, we go through the good and the bad with them, and then we go our separate ways. When we miss them, it’s good to remember that history has two sides. Ours will continue, and therefore we can continue to enjoy the sweet taste of what makes life special.

Getting back together is not the same thing

This is where the difference between missing the person and missing the memories is especially important. When stories end, they end.

Although we will repeat the same thing with the same person, it will not be the same. Because people mature, grow, develop, and therefore do not return to the same point.

Starting again with someone you already know, someone you share a part of your past with, or someone you are trying to relive moments from another time with, will mean starting from a different point. It is not to live or feel the same again.

Let us leave our memories in the memory and enjoy the taste they have left. Let us feel them again when we close our eyes, let us have our eyes filled with tears and think about how it is no longer there.

But let’s be happy that it happened, and that somehow they are still inside us.

We consist of each of our memories, which is why we must live them that way. Let yourself miss things, but if it’s going to hurt again, leave it there.

Do not try to repeat or force something that is no longer there. You may miss it, but you may not want it to come back.

To miss someone or something is to fill the time with memories

Because that’s what’s missing. To be full of memories, moments, adventures and stories, is to be full of life, but also to be full of a past life. It would not be good to stay there. Because we have our past, we miss it, but in the future we have many more memories to create.

Let’s draw the line and move away if we make a decision solely out of nostalgia. Let us stop being full of the past and open our eyes to all that awaits us. The people who were there will remain in our memory and our emotions, but the people who are waiting to start walking our path want us to open our arms to them.

Being brave also means trusting someone again. To continue to miss someone we knew, but risk new experiences and new people, with different crowds, and give others the opportunity to fill the gaps that missing someone has created in us.

But above all, people who fill us up and continue to support us, who do not want to erase our memory, but want to make room for us to write new stories.