Embrace Your Dark Side, Confront Your Monsters
Find a quiet place and sit down. This moment is for you, just for you. This is the time to embrace your dark side. Forget noise and your unfinished to-do list. Let the negative voice in your head fade away, little by little. Enjoy the silence.
For those who do not know how to appreciate it, silence is a bad company. But if you are able to discover its essence, silence can be incredibly pleasing. Listen to it.
Maybe you think it’s impossible for silence to communicate something, but give it a try. Silence is often the way to connect with ourselves. In this case, to connect with your inner self. Do not be afraid of it or run away.
There is nothing wrong with looking at yourself in the mirror. Touch your skin and rub your fingers over the wounds and scars you normally avoid. Do not turn away or close your eyes and pretend it is nothing. You know it hurts. Accept your monsters and embrace your dark side. Connect with yourself.
The darkness of pain
Looking at the disorder in the face is not a pleasant experience. The ghosts that haunt your memories can be frightening and far too difficult for you. They know exactly which pathways are unbreakable, which are less stable, and which are the dark ones that house the roots embedded in your skin.
These ghosts are imprints of your past, the anchors that link you to the pain of what you have been through. They nourish that pain sometimes, to remind you that it is still there and that you have not overcome it.
If you do not stop them, they become the monsters you are so afraid of, such as fear of rejection, being alone or failing. They are just different disguises and masks that cover the false belief that you cling so tightly to: the inability to be happy.
Wounds also have their dark side, did you know that? From here, the gray sadness and pain from the thorns that stings you is all you can see. It is a dangerous zone that is easy to fall into. If you do not prevent it, your life will end up revolving around that disorder. It is a subtle cobweb that envelops you little by little.
Free yourself from your past
It is not easy to free yourself from the broken pieces of your past. This is especially true if the cuts are deep in your skin and you pretend not to see them. The pain has thousands of ways to express itself. Even if you think you are free from it, you may not be.
This pain and suffering can also manifest in your body. David Alexander, professor and director of the Aberdeen Center for Trauma Research , says that people who have suffered emotional damage often translate that pain into something physical.
Therefore, it is best to embrace your dark side and your wounds and their influence on your world. Your dark side can be difficult. If you do not give it care, it can change the way you look at reality. If you do not, you will be stuck in an endless cycle of suffering.
“There are no scars, as terrible as they seem,
which does not contain beauty.
The scar tells a story,
a kind of pain.
But also the end of that pain.
Scars are then seams
of memories,
an imperfect ending that heals us
while it harms us. That’s the way
time provides
that we will never forget our wounds. ”
[translation]
– Marwan –
Your light is born from your dark side
Just as the dark side can destroy you, it can also help you grow. It’s contradictory, but it’s the way it is. The sea of suffering is enormous, but not endless. If you look to the other side, you see the mainland. The key is to find balance.
It is about going beyond the painful experience when you identify and understand it. Despite the pain in your heart, you can appreciate everything around you. Your world is not completely full of suffering, although you may see it that way sometimes. If you focus only on your wounds and pain, your mind will believe that it is all that exists.
There will always be suffering. You can either decide to give up and drown in it or mature and grow. How can you do that? You must embrace your dark side, your monsters and your demons.
The Swiss psychologist, Carl Jung, called the dark side of your personality a shadow archetype. It is the basement where you hide your most repressed instincts. Your greatest selfishness and your uncontrollable desires live there.
Embrace your suffering and your dark side
We all experience suffering at some point in our lives. The most important thing is to be able to recognize it, accept it and feel it. Do this with kindness and do not be too hard on yourself.
When doing this, you need to observe why it is happening. What is the cause of your disorder? What is its true nature? Which of your thoughts feeds it? What actions does it strengthen? What emotions makes it come alive again? Sometimes we throw gasoline on the fire with our words, actions and thoughts, and we do not even realize it.
The next step to freedom is to try to avoid causing suffering. How? By avoiding anything that might provoke it. This step requires patience, effort and practice. You have thousands of ways to hurt yourself, rooted deep within yourself. Almost all of them are related to your thoughts and unconscious actions. The key is to identify them and understand that nothing is permanent. Also, you have the ability to change your life. You’re not a nod doll.
We realize that this is not an easy process. You must overcome many obstacles and destroy many shields. Still, this is the only way to enlighten your life and find the path to well-being. This change will not be sudden, it is a gradual process.
Going over to your dark side takes time, but this is the only way to end your suffering and make peace with it. Sometimes the monsters that control you are nothing more than your deepest fears, crying out for help.
