The Things You Do Not Name Cease To Exist
Where do the nameless fears go ? Where do you store your thoughts and feelings that you have turned off? How do you deal with the things that hurt you if you avoid them? Where is the last resting place for those dreams that will never be? All the things you do not name cease to exist.
But just because they cease to exist does not mean that they lose their potential to harm you. They continue to hurt you in the same way that when you did not talk about them. Even when you’re not talking about what bothers you about other people or what makes you so angry, these things stick. You still feel pain when others attack your self-esteem and bring you down. But if you do not talk about these things, they practically cease to exist.
How can you define your fear if you do not name it? When you name it, you give it a shape. Furthermore, this gives you the opportunity to face it and overcome it. If you do not do this, your fears will still be there. Many thoughts can be meaningful to you. But if you do not name them, you will never meet them. Thoughts remain powerful, but they only exist in your own mind.
How are you affected by the things you do not name?
Did you know that a third of those who go to the doctor have symptoms that do not have a medical explanation? The pain is not physical, but psychological in nature. This means that psychological pain hurts as much as physical pain. It stays inside you without being able to escape and damage your body. All the things you do not name and let go of, cease to exist for others.
The more time you spend alone with your own pain, the greater the pain inside you. When you do not allow it to come out, you increase your chances of getting sick. This is true when you see but do not speak, when you hear but do not help or when you are in pain but you are not trying to heal yourself. These are ways to make your body and soul sick.
Suffering alone tears people up inside. Therefore, there is no better cure than naming the things that kill you from the inside. Name your fears, your dreams and the injustices of the world. When you name them all, you have the opportunity to do something about them. You can work with them and confront them. You can own them.
Why is it bad to suppress your emotions?
It is not possible for people to understand what you do not name. People can not see the burdens that you do not name. Because of this, you can not share the weight of these burdens with anyone. Thus, they end up harassing and persecuting you.
Emotions are very important. That is why it is important to regulate them. This applies to both your mental and physical health.
According to an article written by researchers Philippe Goldin and James Gross, published in the journal Biological Psychiatry , emotions are related to the pattern of brain activity, whether you express them or not. On the other hand, they also established that emotional repression activates the insula and amygdala.
Expressing your feelings relieves some of your pain and the damage it has done to you. When you identify the emotions that certain situations evoke in you (such as fear, joy, anger, etc.), you get closer to those situations in an intelligent way.
When you release everything, you heal yourself. When you empty out what you have inside you, you make the problem smaller because you can share it. When you name something, you give it a physical form that you then have no choice but to face.
