The Importance Of Having Someone Nearby When Everything Collapses

It’s so important to have someone there when everything falls apart, breaks down. When the weight of life crushes our backs and makes us feel small. In those moments when we would be willing to make a deal with the devil to escape misery. We feel that no one is closer to misery than us.

Absolutely deadly, more deadly than ever. It’s not about someone taking us to the surface. We just need someone to stop our fall. Someone who can come over for a few hours with nothing but time and say “I’m just yours. You have my five senses. My touches to keep you, my ears to listen, my mouth to offer words of comfort, my soul that can mingle with yours. ”

Three types of loneliness for those who do not look for it

There are three types of loneliness that people do not seek out. The first we have all felt. This is the feeling we get when we are surrounded by people, but do not feel connected to any of them. Just like how we do not feel connected to the air that blows through our hair or the sun that warms our face.

This kind of loneliness usually disappears when the crowd passes away and we are left with only the important people. When the party is over and it’s time to clean up. Collect the glasses, eat the last food and throw away the empty bottles. When the music turns off and you realize how much you missed the absence of meaningless vibrations. Empty.

The loneliness of the first, the last and the loneliness

There is another type of loneliness, and it is the type that those who are the first or last feel. Those who work on a project that involves a long, tortuous journey. A journey without a proper map. That kind of loneliness makes us good, it makes us strong.

It tests our limits. It’s about doing something we do not really know how to do, but we do it anyway. Although disturbing, these experiences are crucial.

In these situations , we must be our own friends. We create a path for others, we forge the path forward  alone. Maybe others have followed similar paths, but we can not shake off the feeling that no one understands us. After all, they have not lived our lives. They have not gone our way.

The worst loneliness

The last type of loneliness is the worst. It is to look around and not see anyone. To feel that people disappear in the distance, even as you move forward to reach them, until there is no one left.

You will want to think that eventually you will get to the surface of this dark water and everything will be as it was before. Just like when you swam as a child, you will get to the surface and grace will give you breath. But now it’s not just your lungs that are burning… and you ask yourself if you really want to get to the surface at all. It’s different now. You feel that no one will miss you.

It feels like there is nothing left. You can open your eyes, but there is no light. Only the shadows, which get smaller and smaller, of those who swim over you as you sink. You feel like you are sinking farther and farther away from them, you are shouting inaudibly to those above you. You begin to think that it is impossible to escape. You clench your fists and grab the water, but it slides through your fingers.

But sometimes someone slows you down, catches you for a moment, and you regain your faith. You feel stupid for losing it, for misjudging the distance between you and the others. Some will care enough to stop your fall. Others will stop it for a moment.

You do not have to go through depression alone. If you have suicidal thoughts, talk to someone right away.