Are You Someone Who Confronts Your Problems Or Do You Oppose Them?
We encounter negative situations almost every day, situations that bring out the worst in us. We fight, shout, rebel, and – many times – act without thinking. In other words, we lose control. But with the right perspective, we can see the same difficulties and problems we reacted to so inappropriately, in a completely different way.
Whether you face your problems or oppose them does not just depend on the circumstances. They are rooted in a decision we make within ourselves, sometimes unconsciously. Sometimes you unknowingly choose to oppose, and other times you confront your problems. They are two options that determine whether we succeed or fail.
Resisting problems is emotionally exhausting
Opposing problems increases the likelihood of losing control. It will be much more likely that you will be carried away by the first thing you feel without trying to look at it calmly. Our emotions will take control and we let them do it. But this kind of emotional freedom usually has a consequence: remorse for what you have thoughtlessly done or said.
Without noticing it, you are in the middle of meaningless quarrels and discussions. And all they do is wear you out emotionally, sometimes even physically. In fact, when you look at the situation from a different perspective, you realize that you have really blown it all out of proportion.
Have you ever reacted impulsively to something? When this happens, it means that you have released your protective instinct. But if you really think about it, you were not really in danger. Sometimes your impulses come out just to defend your ego.
Opposing things that happen to you and seeing them as a threat or an enemy instead of a challenge will make you intolerant and shut you in. It will prevent you from thinking clearly. And it will make your head spin around with remorse.
But there is another option – even if it requires some practice. It may mean a little hard work, but it’s worth the effort. So how do you stop confronting your problems and start confronting them?
If you face your problems, you will grow
Opposing difficulties will not make you stronger. You really just want to waste energy. You let your most basic instincts tear you away. This prevents you from handling the situation properly.
But when you face your problems, you grow and become stronger, more mature. You will be in a better position to take on all the difficulties that arise much more effectively.
When adversity gets in the way, you know how to stop and breathe. This way you can see things more clearly and make the best choice. You know you can take your time.
After all, you do not get anything by reacting or responding immediately! So hastening your response when the situation does not require it can be a mistake. One reason why you want to tear your hair afterwards.
When you are calm and relaxed, even though everything that is happening around you is total chaos, you will think more intelligently about things. When you stop to breathe, the solution works much closer.
In addition, if you confront your problems, you are less likely to hurt other people unnecessarily. When you express yourself clearly, cordially and respectfully, your point of view will become clearer, and your criticism of other people will not be taken personally.
As you can see, the two are very different things: one, giving in to the impulse to oppose your problems, and two, making the decision to confront your problems.
With one you lose control, you do not process your emotions, and you end up with a remorse that gnaws at you. But with the other, you practice self-confidence, learn to solve problems more effectively, and learn something from them.
Challenges always give you a very special opportunity: the opportunity to learn. They are not a tragedy and you are not a victim. Thinking like that is what will make you oppose them instead of confronting them. Let’s make them a part of our history and live our lives better because of what they taught us.
