You Can Not Fall In Love In One Day, Or Forget Someone In Two

They say that “You can  not  fall in love in one day, or forget someone in two”. But I forgot this saying immediately when I saw you for the first time. When our eyes met, I saw the first smile. My heart started beating faster and faster with each step you took towards me. It was then, just a few minutes after we met, that I fell in love with you.

I fell in love with every detail of your skin, your scent, and how I thought you would be. I imagined you without knowing you, and in my imagination you were perfect. But this perfection was only in my mind. Reality is as cruel as it is wise, and it taught me that not everything we imagine or dream of will come true.

Now I know that only those who really know each other can love each other. Everything else is just an adventure. There are expectations that no one is required to meet. Therefore, it is to know one another to love one another. And therefore it is to forget to leave a piece of yourself that you have shared and built with someone by your side.

Idealization of the other is toxic to love

Today I do not want to be the girl who forgets that the idealization of your partner is like married to love. It is a poison that clouds your mind and makes you see the other person as you imagine him to be. It made me see only what I wanted to see in him, not reality. What actually happened did not matter. But reality, sooner or later, always wins.

Although the main characters in most of the movies I watch swear by eternal love at a glance, and in so many novels, love arises in an instant, one cannot fall in love in the course of a day in real life. Or it happens, but later the story goes on and the magic is destroyed. Maybe it’s more incredible than you could imagine, or it turned out to be nothing. The same nothing that can make you gasp for air.

Falling in love is a process of getting to know each other. To be real, the process takes time. Not a little or a lot, but just the right amount. That’s why I want to be the girl who does not forget that reality is more complex than fiction, and stories are just that: stories. These stories are easy to write when ink is not your blood, and the doubts and hopes on the horizon are not yours.

And even though my love story was more fiction than reality, that does not mean that my pain was also fiction when reality made me fall with my face first. Emotions are never just a product of our imagination. What I felt was real. So real that it hurt, even though it was based on a castle in the clouds.

To forget who you love painlessly is not to feel love at all.

As much as everyone tells me that the fastest way to get over one man is to get under another, I can only answer that forgetting what you love without it hurting is not knowing what love is at all . Because love itself does not hurt or hurt. That is the reality when one tries to forget a failed love that really leaves a mark.

What you lose when you see what’s really going on is the life you imagined with your fairytale prince, who turned out to be a frog. You’re not just the girl who forgets. You are the girl who rebuilds her future when what you want does not work; when you imagined something you never had, but what you longed for.

Then you have to start again. From the beginning, but with more wisdom. You know that fairy tales are stories from childhood. As you get older, you stop seeing princes or frogs that complete you or hurt you. As you grow older, you need no one because you are unique. You value yourself, you love yourself, and you do not miss anyone. No one else can complete you because you are already whole. You alone are worth it. Now you are not the girl who forgets or the girl who dreams that life was an adventure. You are the girl who loves herself.